Do you have more erotic dreams than usual? Can you imagine new exciting situations? Do you want to try different things? These wishes are not incompatible with pregnancy.. Sexual fantasies are defined as mental representations created by the unconscious having sexual relations as their main theme. They occur voluntarily or involuntarily in the mind and begin with puberty, accompanying people throughout their existence.
Thus, It's normal for you to have sexual fantasies if you're pregnant. Both men and women have sexual fantasies at the same level (only they can vary in nature) and although most of the time they are not shared with anyone, they are there and are part of the sexuality of people, at any stage.
During pregnancy, many women report having had more dreams and sexual fantasies and experts point out that this is beneficial for your health, physical and mental. The fact that the pregnant woman has frequent awakenings during the night can contribute, not to having more erotic dreams, but yes to these imaginations being more vividly remembered.
The fantasies, as we will see later, range from intimacy with the couple, with several people, to having sex with someone of the same sex or reuniting with a previous partner, dressing up, using sex toys ... The fact is that sexual fantasies are between the exponents of sexual desire and constitute a positive aspect of sexual health.
Whatever type of sexual dream or fantasy the pregnant woman may have, they are probably related to emotions by the next adventure, motherhood. And it is that these feelings, fears and tensions can be released (and relieved) through erotic dreams.According to Sallie Foley, a sex therapist and co-author of "Sex Matters for Women", during pregnancy the woman is very focused on her own body and dreams may reflect the fact that she loves the new life that is creating inside and the discovery that your body is pleasant, exciting and powerful in a way you never experienced before.
Fantasies and sex games
Fantasy is related to sexual desire, since both concepts are limited to the mental framework on the same context, sexuality. However, the first refers to the evocation of a fictional situation, which may or may not come true (sometimes they only surface in dreams; sometimes making them come true causes them to lose their "magic"), while desire is the anticipation of a real situation
What happens is that, If you decide to share your fantasy with your partner, this will probably lead to a situation of real sexuality. It is what is known as the development of sexual fantasies as a couple. In fact, sexology specialists affirm that stable couples who bring their sexual fantasies to reality in the form of sexual games rekindle their sexual life.
Of course, erotic fantasies are a completely normal phenomenon, unless the behavior of one of the partners does not force the other to submit to them. Of course, in the case of the pregnant woman, it must be taken into account that this fantasy does not imply any risk to her health.
In extreme cases, when sexual fantasies begin to take place and this affects the life of the individual or when they constitute the only way to reach orgasm, they are considered pathological fantasies.
Types of sexual fantasies
Despite a growing interest in the sexuality of pregnant women, the issue of erotic fantasies is relatively rare in the relevant literature. What seems clear is that The sexual profile of a woman during pregnancy, compared to the previous period, usually changes considerably. This is the effect of the factors on hormonal, biological, psycho-emotional and cultural background, as we will see in the next section.
As for the content of sexual fantasies, they sometimes refer to past events, being an attempt to rekindle exciting experiences in memory. This may include previous partners. Other erotic thoughts are mental imaginations, stories created by women, based on desires, motivations and personal preferences.
Sexual fantasies also differ depending on the circumstances in which they occur: they may be partly spontaneous, experienced in situations unrelated to sexual activity (such as dreams, a memory ...); or caused by external stimuli (movies, magazines, conversations ...).In any case, when it comes to dreams, let's keep in mind that they are not literal messages of the subconscious but more complex reflections on life. We cannot collect all the fantasies, since they depend on each person, but these are the most common in pregnancy:
If some of your erotic dreams have to do with old boyfriends or strangers, does not mean you do not want or no longer want your partner, but perhaps part of the subconscious is saying a final goodbye to that "lost" me to cross the threshold of motherhood.
Having relationships with several people or with celebrities. Similarly, it does not mean that you do not love your partner but that it is a manifestation of the desire to experience different things, to feel an important object of desire ...
Masturbation fantasies highlight the discovery of novelties in the woman's body and can also be the result of a period of abstinence.
Another of the common fantasies have their development with the same sex, but that does not mean so much that you are attracted to women but that you appreciate more or differently your own body, the female body, as a powerful organism and as a source of pleasure.
Dress up, play another or accept different roles, use sex toys, dominate or be dominated, tie... are other fantasies easy to turn into sex games with your partenaire (By the way, booming or uncovered after the success of "50 Shades of Gray").
Increased sexual desire in pregnancy
That the pregnant woman suffers a decrease in her sexual appetite is one of the myths about sex during pregnancy, or at least it cannot be generalized with it, since for many women pregnancy is a sexually active and full stage (others, in change, they will leave sex for another occasion, especially at the end of pregnancy or if their personal circumstances are adverse, as in unwanted pregnancies). And if there is sexual appetite, there may be fantasies.
The study "Effect of pregnancy on the frequency of occurrence of sexual fantasies in women" indicates that, while 89% of women say they have fantasies before pregnancy, the figure increases almost 97% if they are pregnant.
Practice sex in pregnancyAs long as there is no medical risk and intercourse is contraindicated, it has many benefits for the mother and the baby and there are even women who experience an increase in libido, associated or not with sexual fantasies.
The work of the hormones has a lot to do with the sexual desire of the pregnant woman and if previously she had a satisfactory sex life, this does not have to change during the nine months.
The second trimester is usually the one with the greatest sexual fullness, when the nausea with luck no longer bothers and the discomfort of the great belly has not arrived.There are some reasons that explain that women feel an obvious sexual desire, and even greater pleasure when it comes to intimate relationships, which could increase the creation of sexual fantasies:
Certain hormones can make women more excited.
The increase in blood volume, especially in the first months, makes the female genitals more irrigated and become more sensitive.
The increase in vaginal discharge causes many women to find sex especially satisfactory at this stage (the vagina becomes more sensitive and better lubricated).
The fact that the woman is more uninhibited (such as when the baby was sought, because contraceptive methods are forgotten), could be another reason. Sex in pregnancy can be more relaxed and spontaneous (yes, if there is no stable partner, a condom should be used in order to prevent possible sexually transmitted infections).
Estrogens cause some changes in the woman's body that may result (both her and her partner) a new source of eroticism (for example, the increase in breast size, although some women this causes discomfort to the beginning).
In addition, the fact that there are numerous night awakenings to go to the bathroom, because there has been a cramp or simply because you do not find the posture, can make the woman look for a pleasant way to relax.
Definitely, sexual fantasies are common in pregnancy and experts point out that, if they are shared, they are good for the sexual life of the couple. They can also stay in simple dreams or intimacy and produce pleasure only for the pregnant woman, consciously or unconsciously in dreams. Where is the limit? In the imagination and individual preferences, and of course, the agreement with your partenaire, the comfort and safety of the pregnant woman.
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