For some people, the way our children are born is a reference of the type of mothers we will be. Sounds a bit absurd, right? Because it is. We cannot judge a mother based simply on whether her children were born by natural birth or caesarean section. However, it continues to be the subject of endless discussions and ill-intentioned comments.
That's why a mother, who He had a second C-section, he has decided to make things clear, remembering that it is not easy to have a and it is certainly not "the easy way", as many believe.
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The mother who made this statement may be familiar to you. And it is about Chontel Duncan, the fitness mom who last year shared an image that went viral, by showing her and a friend, with whom she was only four weeks apart in her pregnancies, but they looked totally different.
I was surprised with a cute visit today from a friend Nat who is also expecting Just being able to see someone in the flesh, rub her tummy, hear how incredible her journey has been so far, how healthy baby is & all the fun talk about kicks, food, names etc was beautiful. This is Nat's 3rd pregnancy so she had a lot of great advice to share It's very clear in this photo just how tall I am, I mean my chin sits above Nat's head lol We worked out that we are 4 weeks apart, so our little ones will be the same age, same grade at school and potential best buds hehehehe… Nat's due start of March & I'm due end of March. Each women carries different and this most certainly doesn't mean one is doing something wrong or not healthy etc. We both have healthy growing babies & we both have had incredible pregnancies so far, feeling amazing & full of energy. # 21.5weeks #expecting # march2016 #pregnant #love #happiness #Babyduncan
Chontel's intention was not only to share the image because yes, but that I tried to show that every woman and every body is different. Some months later, Chontel recreated the image that had been made with her friend, but this time, with the babies of both in her arms. On this occasion, we could see that the difference in the shape of the belly between the two had nothing to do with size, but with its physical constitution.
A first birth that ended in caesarean section
A few months after the birth of her first baby, Chontel returned to be news, when she confessed that the delivery did not go as she had planned, because she had many complications and they had to perform an emergency cesarean.
But it turned out that the caesarean section was not simple either, since in the middle of the intervention she began to vomit and when the abdomen was so strengthened, it contracted and held the baby, so they could not extract it. The medical staff chose to expand the incision they had made and with the help of forceps they finally managed to remove the baby.
"There is nothing easy in a caesarean section either"
Since the birth of her first child, Chontel has shared images of her life as a mother. Recently he had his second baby and as with his first pregnancy and childbirth, he was posting on his Instagram account the progress with his followers.
Despite having had a bad first experience, Chontel had stated that he wanted more to have children and that he would try to have a vaginal delivery after caesarean section. However, as the end of her second pregnancy approaches, she changed his mind due to the position in which his baby came and decided to go for a scheduled C-section.
To some people, that didn't seem like it and they even made comments telling him that he had taken "the easy way" by not even trying to have a vaginal delivery after his first caesarean section. So she decided to answer them, posting on Instagram an image that includes three photographs that show the three strongest moments she lived during her second caesarean section.
Ill catch the trolls before they give me their two cents because I didnt push my baby out which was (mind you) out of my control. There's nothing easy about a cesarean either… the tugging, the pushing, the sounds, the smells, the feeling of no control, the fear of something going wrong, the recovery it all terrifies me. But I would do it all again in a heart beat… The top photo captures me at my weakest point and my husband incredibly helpless, the middle photo captures the sound of Swaydes cry & visual of his privates and bottom photo captured the most incredible feeling of all, two parents falling in love at first sight. No matter how we birth or how our babies come into our lives we all experience fear, excitement and fall in love. Natural, caesarean, surrogate, adoption what ever the situation we all go through the journey in some way shape or form & we all should be dam proud of ourselves. @sam_hiitaustralia
I'm going to catch the trolls before they give me their opinion because I didn't push my baby, which was something that was beyond my control. There is nothing easy in a caesarean section either… the pulls, the shoves, the sounds, the smells, the feeling of not being in control, the fear that something goes wrong, the recovery, everything terrifies me. But I would do it again in an instant ...
The top photograph captured me in my weakest moment and my incredibly helpless husband, the middle photograph captured the sound of Swayde's crying and when we saw her private parts. And the last photo captured the most incredible feeling of all, that of two parents falling in love at first sight.
No matter how we give birth or how our babies arrive in our lives, we all feel fear, emotion and fall in love. Childbirth, caesarean section, surrogate mother, adoption, whatever the situation, we all go through a trip in a way or form, and we should all be proud of ourselves.
In an interview with Cafe Mom, Chontel comments that both pregnancies ended in caesarean sections, which although they were drastically different, there was nothing easy in any of them. About the comments saying that she had not even tried to have a natural birth after caesarean section she stated the following: "I think those comments are extremely offensive. I also think that this has become a kind of trophy situation for some, where if you didn't push your baby out of your vagina and didn't use any medication, you didn't do the job right".
Your way of giving birth does not define you
Neither those who have natural childbirth are better or more capable, nor are those who have caesarean section weak or weak. It is true that caesarean section is an emergency measure and is not the best for the baby, but it also does not mean that we have the right to judge those who have had one. Simply they are different situations that depend on the circumstances of each one, and that many times they are even out of the hands of those who live them.
I have always thought that comparisons are absurd, and in motherhood or fatherhood, they are even more so. We have to understand that Every mother, every body and every baby is unique, they are different. There is no mother equal to another, just as there is no baby equal to another.
Let's stop making those ridiculous comparisons full of judgments that only encourage the war between mothers to continue. We all do the best we can, with what we have and know. We can always promote what is healthier or more convenient according to medical professionals, but if we do, remember to do it respectfully and without offending others.
