Asturian journalist Rodrigo Fáez wrote on his Twitter account:
"I stay to eat with some friends. On the next table there are two babies. After 23,008 screams I have to turn my head in plan 'hey, ok now.' The mother responds to the look: 'It's a baby'. Remember : the rest we don't have to put up with your children. Are you agree? Or not?"
In just three days, his tweet has been retweeted more than 1,500 times and has received 2,400 comments, both supportive and critical, because it is clearly a topic that generates controversy. This makes us wonder: Do children bother so much in restaurants? Whose fault is it? Are you right in complaining? Should we be more tolerant?
I stay to eat with some friends. On the next table are two babies. After 23,008 screams I turn my head in plan "hey, ok now." The mother responds to the look: "It's a baby." Remember: the rest we don't have to put up with your children. Are you agree? Or not?
- Rodrigo G. Fáez (@RodrigoFaez) November 25, 2018
This tweet has been the origin of the controversy. Among the many comments that approve your complaint:
I have had two children, I have tried to calm them, if not, I will go to see if I calm it and if I do not pay and go to my house. The others do not have to endure the cries of my children! I have wanted to have children and I endure them. There is a stage that you have to fuck.
- osaRosa Meza🌹 (@ rosameza10) November 26, 2018
I am a mother and would be unable to eat while my baby cries. There are children who are weeping but in general, if they do, something happens to them. It is not the baby's fault, but rather those who prefer to continue with their life as if nothing while their baby is upset and incidentally bothers others.
- AmarilloAzulYRojo 🎗️🎗️🎗️ (@npramirezmora) November 26, 2018
But, there are also criticisms when considering that the children are not to blame and that their behavior is the responsibility of their parents:
It happened to me: 5 children alone at a table making disasters and their parents on the other side of the restaurant very comfortable. The waitress wanted to sit next to the children and we said: These children do not want their parents nor do we.
- Rebeca Rocha (@RebecaRochaRuas) November 27, 2018
I do not think that the child is spoken badly, but about the actions of irresponsible parents. The natures of children is that crying for everything, parents are responsible for their children, nobody else.
- Vianxi (@ genuine1712) November 28, 2018
And remember that children too they may have a sudden tantrum (even if they are 'well educated') or babies cry for discomfort or illness (and nothing can be done, as is the case at hand):
Another thing is that you deny the right to parents to be with their child in an establishment because their baby cries when it is not the fault of the parents or the product of a bad education (it is still very small). It is foreign to his will and natural in a baby.
- Gato Gafotas (@Gato_Gafotas) November 26, 2018
A baby should be in a quiet environment, without noise, not in a cafeteria or cinema. Let's see if we are a little coherent, parents should sacrifice those years and change their routines, for the good of the children and for the rest too.
- José León (@ jose_leon2017) November 27, 2018
There are also the people, with whom I identify completely, who point out that adults bother much more:
60 years ago children were objects of production and that is why families had 7 or 8 children. 30 years ago, the child became the protagonist of society and an enjoyment for the family. Now, children are disturbed in the restaurant, in hotels and on planes without children. Wealthy society
- Kiko Sanchez (@kiketerzgz) November 26, 2018
To all the intolerant people who say that you don't have to put up with a baby bothering you with their crying… have you even thought that your voice bell may also not like and bother others, and they have to put up with you? in a restaurant, huh ?. Shut up.
- Francisco Spain (@pacoespana) November 25, 2018
But there many more comments: more than 2,500, so if you have time you can go through the Twitter account and give your opinion, after valuing what others say.
In Babies and more, is it a good idea to ban small children from entering certain restaurants?The controversy of children in restaurants
It is not the first controversy that awakens around the behavior of babies and children in restaurants.
In fact, a few months ago, we published the case of Rudolf Markl, owner of the hotel-restaurant Oma's Kuche, which explained in a local environment why he had prohibited entry to those under 14 from 5:00 p.m., moment at which dinners begin to be served.
The man claimed that "He loves children when they know how to behave", and that for that reason has not completely prohibited them from entering. But after many years of observing their clients, he concluded that many parents completely neglect their children when they go to a restaurant, and end up leaving their attention and education to local workers.
In Babies and more A German restaurant prohibits the entrance to minors at dinner time: the controversy about children-free sites returnsBut you don't have to go that far. The Livingston restaurant in Salamanca was also the subject of controversy when drafting regulations on how children should behave in their establishment. He received so many criticisms, that he had to rectify and eliminate the poster with five written rules.
Adults are not perfect
I read all the comments and cases of "ninophobia" in public places and I have to admit that it scares me how far the taste for leisure without children is getting.
Rules of behavior aimed at minors before accessing a room? Complaints why children bother at the next table? Are there not adults much more annoying than many children?
You just have to stop for a moment to think: What about that table neighbor who has gone over with alcohol and starts saying antics out loud? Or those who sing in the middle of the place because they are happy to be together?
Or think for a moment:Have you ever managed to have dinner or lunch in a restaurant without being interrupted several times by the unbearable sound of mobile phones? Or the shouting conversation of the person who answers and that penetrates you through the ear, even if you try to return to talk with your tablemates?
But, who dares to tell adults do the same keep your composure?
And let's not say anything about other public establishments, such as hotels or cinemas, where the signs of disrespect for others reach unexpected situations: the same ones that are thrown into the pool head no matter who is below, as if they were their owners , complain that children play in the water; or they protest in the cinema if the cry of a child is heard: and what happens with that cell phone that sounds in the middle of the movie or the whispering with its companions that penetrate your ear from the back seat?
Children are not always to blame
When parents realize that our children can bother and try to calm them down, entertain them With some resource toy that we always carry in your bag or even go out with them to play when they finish eating. Or at least most of us.
I have to admit that something as simple as a napkin and a pen borrowed from the waiter have served on occasion for my daughter to be entertaining drawing without saying a word.
But in the case of babies, it is impossible for them to always keep the type! So I am even more amazed at the comment of our fellow journalist: What does the mother intend to do? What covers his mouth? What do you lock up at home until you go to college?
Although our baby is a good-natured "and behave beautifully in the street" He can cry without comfort at any time: because he is sleepy, his teeth hurt, he is overwhelmed by the heat, the dirty diaper bothers him ... It's a baby! And he cries when something goes wrong, because he doesn't know how to communicate otherwise.
How many times have the parents gone out with the baby in the chair to try to calm him down and make him fall asleep? That is the usual.
Therefore, it would not be bad that the next time we enter a restaurant and we "Bother a child" Let's think before complaining:
What we did at his age.
If our older children have always behaved like what we now consider correctly (if you remember you will discover that they or even you as a child would have bothered yourself too).
If the blame for the screaming, crying, or flying napkins, is the parents or the children. The responsibility is not of the minors, but of the adults who accompany them.
If your attitude is really so annoying. Because it seems that everything children do bothers us and we end up labeling them negatively without ton or are.
Of course, this is only my personal opinion of a mother and does not intend to sit chair, much less. Just make those who protest what parents feel when they lash out at their children. If I have succeeded or not, it remains to be seen.
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