Visits to the pediatrician or the nurse are usually a cause of distress and rejection by children. To be taken as well as possible it is recommended to always tell them the truth.
When they are babies there is not much problem, because they go where they are taken without questioning, but to which they begin to understand us, the first reluctance appears when they go to the doctor.
On the performance of professionals with children there is much to discuss and probably much to improve (treatment, looks, touch, ...), maybe another day talk about it, if anyone is interested.
However there are other things that happen in the query that can not be changed too much, is what there is:
- You can not see the throat without the depressor or "stick" that causes so many arches (unless the child is trained and knows how to open his mouth and lower his throat, but this is only known by some older children)
- You cannot get a vaccine without puncturing.
- You can't draw blood without a needle.
- A wound cannot be sutured without a needle and thread.
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Faced with these events and given that we parents are always always informed of what they are going to do to our little ones we must always tell them the truth: where are we going and what are we going (with a little touch, of course).
Many mothers and fathers deceive their children by telling them that they are going to another place, that they are going to the doctor but that they will not visit them, that they are going to the doctor but that they will not be punctured, etc.
Without going any further, a few days ago a mother entered with her 4-year-old daughter to make a blood draw and when the baby cried, the mother said: "Don't cry, don't worry, they won't puncture you". A minute later the girl had a needle stuck with blood.
What sense can it make for a girl that her mother tells her and repeats that she can be calm, that they will not prick her, if they are going to do it immediately afterwards? At what level can the little girl's trust towards her mother's words be left?
The most logical thing is that every time he goes to the doctor, even if his mother tells him that they will not prick him, the girl thinks that they will prick him, distrusting his mother and fearing people dressed in white.
Perhaps for this reason there are so many adults today with phobia of needles and syringes (maybe not).
The ideal is always tell them the truth. It is not necessary to go into too many details, but to adapt what will happen to your ability to understand.
If one day he touches a prick or something unpleasant and we communicate it that way, the child will be notified and will realize, when the mother's words are confirmed, that he has been sincere.
If one day the visit is rather routine and there will be no painful procedure, we tell them that they will not do any harm and realize that it is true, the circle closes and they end up understanding that they can trust mom.
