When you find out that you expect a baby, one of the first reactions or ideas you can have is to tell your family immediately. And so, they begin a series of preparations, tips and talks about the new family member. And a question that will undoubtedly ask you, will be that of his name.
In many cases, the name is the choice of the parents only, but in some families there is already a particular name that has been used for several generations and is sometimes expected to continue to be used. But what if they don't want to give it to their baby? Today I talk to you about when it is you who breaks the tradition of the family name with your child.
A name as a family tradition
Just as there are some traditions to honor some family members, there are also other forms that have been taken as a tribute to someone in particular, and one of them is to give the new baby the same name.
In Babies and more51 names for babies that sound pretty in any language This is usually a tradition that passes from parents to children: if the father has a male child, they give him the same name, and if he later also has a male child, the tradition continues, making in several generations in a row someone carry the same name. The same goes for mothers and daughters.
In this way, that name acquires a very special value emotionally, and in addition to being a way of honoring a loved one, it becomes a tradition within the family and in many cases, the following generations are expected to continue using it.
But what if we don't want to use it?
Well, really, nothing happens. While using a family name is a nice way to continue a tradition and pay special tribute to someone in the family, this does not mean that it must be used or that some kind of betrayal is being committed by not doing so.
There are many reasons why someone can choose to break the tradition of the family name, from the fact that they do not feel identified with the person to whom they pay homage (in the case of families who keep repeating the name that first used the great-great grandfather, for example) or simply, because the name does not like .
It is possible that although the family does not say anything and they do not even realize that they have not continued the tradition, if there are some people who are offended or take it badly, what It could result in a somewhat awkward situation for the parents of the baby on the way.
But we must keep something in mind: choosing a baby's name is not something we should take lightly and there are many things to take into account. But certainly the most important, is the opinion and desire of future parents, and if they don't feel comfortable with one option, they can choose another.
Simply said: Everyone has the right and freedom to choose the name they wish to give their child, without this being taken as something negative by not continuing with the tradition of the family name. If it continues, it's nice, if not, too.
My experience breaking the tradition of the family name
In my case and personal experience, it could be said that it was my turn to be the one who broke or interrupted that line, although we do not carry a long list of generations with a family name, as in other families where they arrive at "Fulanito VI".
My name is just like my mother, I guess it's because I'm her first daughter and she wanted to give me the same name they gave her. Except for those occasions when we do not know which of the two they are talking to, it does not bother me that we call each other the same because I like my name, but it was never in my plans to give my daughter my name. Neither was denied but I never really thought of it as an option.
In Babies and more Nine frequent mistakes you won't want to make when choosing your baby's name When I decided to put another name totally different from my daughter, my mother did make a comment to me, mainly jokingly, although I did notice some tension to feel that maybe I had disappointed her. But she accepted and respected my decision, because choosing the name is something that belongs only to the baby's parents.
If we want to include the family to help us make that decision and choose among all a name that we like, it is also totally valid, but it is very different from wanting to impose something on the parents' desire.
So, while continuing with family name tradition It is something special, it does not mean that not doing it is a bad thing or the family is not taken into account. Simply in tastes we all have different opinions and the name of the new family member should not be a reason for discussion, but an element of the great joy that is yet to come.
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