I just saw on television one typical scene of what usually happens with children in Spain. A television presenter approaches the father and son who just sang a song live. It seems to me that the song has been done very well, because although you don't like the style, it seems to me that the father sings well and the feelings that the son has transmitted with him have also been quite positive, and that is that the kid has not wrinkled and has shown that he knows what he is doing.
When they finish the performance, as I said, the hostess comes, congratulates the kid, who thanks him for his attention and then turns his eyes to the father and asks him for the son. And the father comes up and starts to act as spokesman for the kid: that if he doesn't like this music, if he does other types of songs, he does have a lot of talent, and blah blah blah And you see, on a general level, how the kid listens attentively, because he shows himself polite, to his father while he does not give foot or allow him to explain himself or, that seems worse, encourages the presenter to do the interview to young man.
And this scene is more common than we think. It's very easy that down the street, When we go with our children, ask the children and answer the parents! In my case I have it clear, unless the question is difficult, that she answers. And better the smaller they begin to answer. This way they learn to understand what they are asked, they are attentive, they have to think the answer, they dare to answer it and they realize if what they have said they have understood or not.. Because if we answer the parents, the only thing we get is that they will probably pull us by the hand because they want to leave, identify that person who asks as a bit intrusive and they lose participation in a creative process that arises spontaneously and quickly.
It's what I say to my daughter, when she begins to be older her parents will not go with her and the sooner she learns to function naturally, with determination and with better enthusiasm. And at school it is one of the attitudes that teachers work with them, they encourage them to move around the school running errands and meeting other members of the school community, teachers or other staff. And that way they diagnose and detect limitations in the children and learn to correct them among all.
It will be necessary to give another opportunity to the boy who acted with his father because he pointed out talent and ambition. And in the meantime, do you think you ever practice as a spokesperson for your son?
