We all know the benefits of breast milk, and we are many mothers who decided, from the first moment, to breastfeed our babies. There are also women who prepare during pregnancy, reading articles and books on breastfeeding.
But until you have your baby in your arms and breastfeeding starts you don't know what it really means. At that time, theory gives way to practice and experience may not be as expected.
Y This is what has happened to Verdeliss with his last two lactations: that of her twin daughters and that of her premature baby. But far from hiding the difficulties that have happened, the well-known Youtuber has wanted to share them with all his followers, in order to encourage other mothers who are in the same situation.
"Sometimes I think about how many towels will have been thrown out for lack of tribe"
The well-known youtuber and mother of seven children, Verdeliss, posted yesterday on her Instagram account a reflection on breastfeeding that has moved us, because of the sincerity of his words and what he transmits. The text is accompanied by a photograph of her breastfeeding her last daughter, born prematurely at 31 weeks gestation.
See this post on InstagramBreastfeeding. 🤱🏼 You get tired of listening: it doesn't have to hurt ... but alas when it hurts! Sometimes I think how many towels will have been thrown for lack of tribe, to share experiences, from mother to mother. We all know the technique, the benefits of breast milk and overwhelm us with scientific evidence (with reason🤲🏻) But also present the difficulties, far from lessening, preparing and strengthening. Women, my beginnings with my two lactations were not as I expected: between pain, tears, cracks, blisters, obstructions, mastitis, insomnia and guilt ... a lot of guilt! With the twins I rebelled thinking that it was not what they had told me, but the intervention of Carmen, my friend Doula and lactation consultant was stronger (and my stubbornness hehe). With Miren, I comforted myself: calm, it's normal, calm will come, pleasant breastfeeding will come. Believe me ... if it is a desired breastfeeding (and if there is no pathology that prevents it) one day you find yourself watching your baby breast, in a sweet, magical and mammalian fusion. And those two tortuous months until breastfeeding was established make sense. And you fall in love with those moments. It is necessary to make the shadows visible, to reach the lights❤️ If you are now in that vulnerable period where you feel something that is not similar to sticking thousands of pins in the nipple every time your baby is hooked it turns out to look like a “scam”, calm… Pleasant breastfeeding and it is wonderful. Courage encouragement (then come the crises of growth, rejection or maternal agitation to vary ... but that is water from another sack 😅) let yourself be supported, believe in you and your baby #Verdeliss #LactanciaMaterna
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"Women, my beginnings with my two lactations were not as I expected: between pain, tears, cracks, blisters, obstructions, mastitis, insomnia and guilt ... a lot of guilt!""Breastfeeding. Tired of hearing: it doesn't have to hurt ... but, alas when it hurts! Sometimes I think how many towels will have been thrown out for lack of tribe, to share experiences from mother to mother. We all know the technique, the benefits of breast milk and they overwhelm us with scientific evidence (rightly so.) But also present difficulties, far from lessening, preparing and strengthening."
In Babies and more For the mother who is having difficulties with breastfeeding"With the twins I rebelled thinking that It was not what they had told me, but the intervention of Carmen, my friend Doula and lactation consultant was stronger (and my stubborn hehe). With Miren, I comforted myself: calm, it's normal, calm will come, pleasant breastfeeding will come. "
"Believe me, if it is a desired breastfeeding (and if there is no pathology that prevents it) One day you find yourself watching your baby suck, in a sweet, magical and mammalian fusion. And those two tortuous months until breastfeeding was established make sense. And you fall in love with those moments. It is necessary to make the shadows visible, to reach the lights "
"If you are now in that vulnerable period where you feel something that is not similar to sticking thousands of pins in your nipple every time your baby gets hooked, it seems to be a" scam ", quiet ... Pleasant breastfeeding will arrive and it is wonderful. Courage encouragement (then come the crises of growth, rejection or maternal agitation to vary ... but that is water from another sack) let yourself be supported, believe in you and your baby "
The lights and shadows of breastfeeding
Like any other aspect of parenting, breastfeeding is also a personal experience, which can be very different from one mother to another: for some women, it is a good and successful experience from the first moment, while for others it is a path full of difficulties.
In Babies and more The distressing photo of a mother frustrated by her difficult experience with breastfeedingAlthough it is true that when successful breastfeeding is achieved, it becomes one of the most amazing and loving experiences in a mother's life, there is also a dark side that some women go through, and that is far removed from that dream breastfeeding they have sold us.
That is why it is important to make visible the shadows of breastfeeding, so that mothers who are going through it do not feel alone, guilty, or suffer in silence. Sharing experiences can not only be a great help for the mother who is having difficulties, but become the lifeguard she expected.
The importance of the tribe
And in this sense the tribe becomes especially important, since it is essential that the mother has an important support network that offers her security and information in case of possible doubts and setbacks.The support must start from the delivery room, where doctors, nurses and midwives correctly informed in breastfeeding reach out to the recent mother, knowing how to communicate and help from the empathy that is required in these delicate and first moments between mother and baby.
In Babies and more The AEP recommends leaving mother and baby alone during the first few days, to benefit breastfeedingOnce mother and baby are discharged, it becomes more essential than ever the support of the couple and a tribe of mothers to listen to you, understand you and not judge you. And it is that being able to speak without cover or fear, and receive advice from other mothers based on experience, is certainly a great help.
Y if you are having difficulties with your breastfeeding, it is recommended that you go to a breastfeeding support group, where advisors or IBCLC will help you overcome obstacles and clarify all your doubts.
