They had been silent for a while and you have not remembered the basic paternity rule that says "if they are silent, run, they are not doing anything good." So when you go it is already too late. You find them full of paint, from top to bottom, in the hair, face, hands, clothes, and you have left the room completely decorated.
You have two options, let the rage that grows exponentially from inside you out through your mouth and through your body telling them how bad they have done it, tensing your muscles and pulling them out vigorously to put them directly in the shower or take a deep breath, tell them that do not move, take the camera and accompany them to the shower to talk with them and what happens to this father, that you can't stop laughing when you scold them.
The video in question
They have put on shame and the first thing that comes to mind when they see them is "my mother, how they left the room". I can imagine it because I am a father and surely you can imagine it too. Anger is inevitable, but on this occasion, the main father has chosen the second option, to try to take it easy.
The video is very interesting in several ways, we see a patient father talk with the children so that they see the error. We see an older brother who is not sure who is to blame and a younger brother, the typical funny secondary of the movies, who nods or denies according to his brother.
At first you are amazed to see them like that, but as time goes by you take love, you get softer and it happens to you like the father, you start laughing.
And this must have happened to many people, because the original video, uploaded to YouTube by Mihai Patriche, now has almost 5 million views in just 4 days.
Has it never happened to you?
Surely this has happened to you more than once. You are serious to explain to them that what they have done you do not like but when you look at them you cannot avoid laughing at the pints they have. It has happened to me more often than I would like, and that which sometimes exploded and opted for the first option, to scream and catch them without knowing very well what to do, out of control because the patience was over.
But it lasts a few seconds, then I reflect, the key question comes to my mind "Have they done it with the intention of bothering you?" and then I approach it differently, because remember, it seems to be unimportant, but it does, and much, if the children have not done it with evil, with the intention of harming you, of provoking you, they were just playing, testing or exploring.
Perhaps if you had been with them you could have explored together and that would not have happened. Maybe if you had been with them you could have said no, that children can't touch it. Maybe ... but they were alone, they came up with something that perhaps shouldn't have been within their reach and simply played with it, because they are children. And children do that, play with the things they find, without thinking about the consequences.
And the parents are there for that, to sit them down and to explain to them that the thing of painting everything and painting whole is not right, that they stain whole and that they stain everything, and that then you have to clean it and that gives a lot of work. And they are also to take a camera and record them, and record the dialogue, and laugh at the one you just messed up, because that stupefied will become a comic moment that will last for years and years and that the children, when they grow up, will remember with humor and affection, thanking even their father for reacting in that way and not for a much more violent one.
But do they learn something like that?
Ya, ya, yes I know. There will still be those who say that these children will repeat it again, that this way a child is not taught, that better a severe punishment, that a slap in time and a good pair of shouts work wonders and I do not know how many nonsense more. Well, I say, sometimes I have a headache (this has happened to me more since I have three children) and I shout more than I would like, but I try to quickly redirect the situation so as not to end up doing any of these prehistoric methods.
The children of the video do not think they do something like that again. At least they won't do the same. Maybe another day they do something else just as terrible and win another video and another sermon, but it will be different. And they will because they are still children and still want to explore, learn and play. And the father will record them again, explain why he is not well and laugh at the moment. And so, little by little, they will learn what is right and what is not right.
With the other methods, if they are repeated, there is a very high risk of getting the children, in the end, stop wanting to learn and stop wanting to explore: "I better not play anything, lest we do something wrong and Dad quarrel, yell at us or hit us, "and that will be the first day of the end of children's curiosity and the first day children stop, in a way, from being children.
