When I got pregnant, a friend warned me that I would be amazed at the number of people who would think about raising my daughter, so I was more or less ready. What I did not expect is the amount of uncomfortable questions that I would ask at times of breastfeeding my baby. If you are near a woman who is about to give birth or who has been a mother recently, take note to NOT ask those same questions. I assure you, it is very grateful not to listen to them.
Keep in mind that as mothers, the gram most of the time we are thinking about how to do our best with our offspring and that includes the way we feed it ... I honestly don't know if I am too "protective" with the way I have been Breastfeeding my daughter, but I confess that it bothers me a little when I feel they ask me questions that sometimes seem a bit out of tune. Some of the most memorable are the following:
Don't you get bored of taking your tit off every moment?: The truth is that no ... I am one of those who has really enjoyed breastfeeding my baby and I am not "bored" feeding him ... quite the contrary, it is a moment of complicity between her and me.
Aren't you afraid that your chest will fall like a grandmother?: Man, I cannot deny that I would prefer it not to happen, but if it happens, I have already assumed that the law of gravity will have to do its job at some point in life.
The tit again?: I remember as if it was yesterday when someone told me that when I saw that I was breastfeeding on demand ... I confess that I was very bothered by the way he did it and that it seemed even offensive. The decision of how and when to feed a baby is the decision of his mother and eye, if you say that to a woman who has just given birth (with its corresponding hormone revolution), you can create a more than uncomfortable moment.
Doesn't it make you grimace?: I don't know what face I put when I heard it, but it was probably few friends because immediately the person in question tried to "fix it". I still don't understand how he could ask me such a question.
Don't you think he's been hungry?: I know that the person who asked me didn't do it with bad intention, but believe me, nobody knows a baby like his own mother and we know (even if we are new), if the baby has been satisfied or not.
Don't you think he is eating a lot?: The funny part of this question is that the same person asked me as the previous one. Now that I think about it, my answer was clear and too concise: "no."
Are you not ashamed to do it on the street?: I honestly don't know if I lost it too much or soon or if there are definitely people who consider that eating on the street is an act to feel ashamed, because breastfeeding is simply that: it is the act of feeding your baby in the most natural way that exists .
Don't you think you should introduce the bottle?: That said, we mothers are thinking about how to do better, so I will probably have contemplated this at some point (especially when I spend nights worthy of forgetting), but it is an issue that I only want to discuss with my partner and nobody else.
When are you going to wean him?: The truth is that I don't know what people expect when they ask you that: next week? ... in a month? ... the transition between drinking milk and eating is a process that takes time and today I think that knowing How much is impossible depends on how the mother handles it and how the baby reacts.
As my daughter is only 6 months I guess I still have several to listen. I guess at some point the "Isn't it too big to continue breastfeeding?"... bets open!
