"Did you have caesarean section or normal delivery?" It is one of the questions that many other people ask us when we are recent mothers. Sometimes I wonder if it is really important for everyone to know how our children came to the world. Do not take it badly, I like to talk about these issues.
What I don't like is that we are judged or labeled by the way we have our children. We are many mothers who on some occasion have felt discriminated simply because our children were born by caesarean section.
Now an Australian mother, respond to those who say that a cesarean is "the easy way out", in a publication detailing what it feels like to have had one.
Olivia White is a maternity blogger who recently shared on her Instagram account a photo that was taken after she had a C-section. He did it to share a very important message that many people do not seem to understand yet: Caesarean section is not the easy way.
Look I know it might not be my best angle (or is it?) but who wouldn't take selfies hours post birth so they can see where they sliced you open and yanked out a whole person (if you couldn't tell I still couldn't see past my still inflated uterus) This is what you really look like a few hours post c-section To anyone who thinks it's the easy way out, we'll try having a 6 inch gash in your abdomen like a gutted shark who had the body parts of the surfer it ate retrieved! That's then sewn back together with fishing wire while it feels like your vital organs are trying to escape! I mean sure, everything is and till the spinal wears off! After that it's like you've been hit by a bus which then backed over you just to make sure it didn't miss you the first time! If you don't time the Endone exactly before the previous lot wore off then you will most certainly know you are alive (while wishing you were dead) ☠️ and worst of all you'll feel as if you'll spend your entire life wearing nanna knickers up around your waist because the thought of anything settling in the canyon between your gut and pubic region is the stuff nightmares are made of Anyone who's ever had c section knows that you'll forever be dependent on your friends Nancy , Dr 90210 and Spanx because you cannot for the life of you get rise of the ditch that is left by the scar But for all the skin tight Kookai dresses I bought while pregnant that now make me look like I have a Kangaroo pouch - I wouldn't change it! Because if it wasn't for the ability to deliver my babies this way they might not be here today plus I recon getting cut from A to B sounds way worse
A shared publication of ✖️ OLIVIA WHITE ✖️ (@houseofwhite_) on May 11, 2017 at 3:07 PDT
In the picture we can see Olivia still in the hospital, with the scar of her caesarean section in the foreground.
Look, I know this is probably not my best angle (or is it?), But who wouldn't take a selfie after delivery to see where they cut you and took out a whole person? (In case you can't notice it, I still can't see beyond my still swollen uterus). This is how you really look a few hours after a C-section.
The blogger begins by narrating with a little humor the reason why the photo was taken and explaining that indeed, the belly does not magically decrease after the baby has left and we cannot see the place where we had the cesarean section. It reminds me a lot when my daughter was born, because I couldn't see the place where I had been cut to take my daughter out during my emergency C-section. But the interesting thing is what she says next:
For anyone who thinks this is the easy way out, well, try to have a 6-inch cut in your belly ... Then, that is sewn again while you feel as if your organs are trying to escape. Of course, everything is rainbow and sweet until the anesthesia ends! After that you feel as if you had been hit by a bus, which then backed up to make sure it didn't fail the first time.
For many mothers, it is just like a caesarean section. I remember little of mine, I felt that only 5 minutes passed between the time I was admitted to the operating room and I met my daughter. But I agree with something: when anesthesia ends, the pain is indescribable.
The worst thing is that you will feel that you should wear grandma panties that reach your waist because they give you nightmares of just thinking about putting something between your belly and your pubic region.
Here I must admit that the comment on the "grandma panties" made me laugh because it is very, very real. The first days, weeks and even the first months, you are terrified to put on any garment that can squeeze you or that falls right on the scar because you feel that I could hurt you or reopen the cut (it sounds absurd now, but at the time I was panicking to think that the wound could open).
And not to mention the recovery process while the C-section heals, even going to the bathroom becomes a nightmare. Getting out of bed is a pain, carrying our babies while we recover can be very difficult and emotionally painful. So no, Caesarean section is not the easy way.
... But I wouldn't change anything! Because if it wasn't for the possibility that my children were born this way, they wouldn't be here with me today.
This is what I think is most important of the whole message of this mother. We must see the cesarean as what it is: an option for women who could not have children naturally. By this I do not mean that caesarean section should be considered as usual because we know that the best and most recommended is for babies to be born by natural birth. But there are many reasons why you have caesarean section, which have nothing to do with the performance or value we have as mothers.
If a woman, for whatever reason, has her children by caesarean section, we should not discriminate against her. Caesarean section is not the easy way nor does it define how good a mother you are. Let's end with those horrible phrases like "you didn't give up because you had a caesarean section"or"you are a coward for not having a natural birth"Although it does matter how our children are born, it is even more important to ensure that mom and baby are safe.
