We may have been the focus of attention and criticism before a tantrum or a performance by our children. We may have even received some hurtful comments from other people.
Long time, Megan was one of those accusing mothers that today he regrets his way of acting and has wanted to share it with the world through a writing on his Facebook page, which invites us to reflect on our actions and the society in which we live.
He made a mistake pointing to a mother
A few years ago, Megan Orr Burnside and her husband witnessed a gas station in a violent scene between a mother and her ten year old son which led them to immediately notify the police to intervene.
At that moment, Megan thought she was doing the right thing because it didn't seem appropriate that a mother was struggling with her son and struggling to force him into the car. And so he remembered in a recent post he shared on his Facebook page:
"The boy was screaming and his mother was angry and frustrated. We saw how he got into the car and how they fought once inside. It seemed he was hitting him, so we called the police. When the agents came we left."
"Then we received a call and they told us that the child was autistic and that his mother had many problems with him, and even he had asked the police for help on occasion to treat his sonWell, it was very violent. They told us that they were helping her and that she was doing things the best she could and knew "
That call marked Megan so much that reflected for a long time on what happened, realizing the mistake he had made by pointing and blaming that mother without knowing what had led him to act like this.
"In my eagerness to protect the child, I neglected to offer help to his mother. On the contrary, I gave it to the authorities. I felt guilty, even years later, of not having offered my help. If I had helped her at that time, perhaps the violence would be over "
"When people feel overcome, they need help, not condemnation."
Megan admits that she learned a very important lesson and now criticizes that people are always willing to take out their mobile phones to record or denounce the imperfection of a stranger, instead of offering a helping hand.
"We have become a society that condemns and seeks faults in others instead of opportunities to help. We have become separatists and accusers instead of compassionate, affectionate and helpful" - he says.
After that event and the inner revolution he brought, Megan lived a similar episode in a supermarket, but the experience and lesson he learned from the first time led him to act in a totally different way.
He saw a very angry mother fight with her two children at the checkout line, while the rest of the clients watched the scene without doing anything. Then Megan approached her and offered her help calming the children.
The mother apologized saying that she worked at night and that during the day she was so exhausted that she did not know how to act with them. Megan empathized with that mother by transmitting her support and encouragement, and then the woman began to cry, thanking the gesture.
"When people feel overcome, they need help, not condemnation""I know that I have been guilty of having condemned a mother in the past, and now I see clearly that this action of mine probably perpetuated the problem instead of helping to solve it" - Megan reflected in her Facebook account.
Megan's words and her poignant reflection have become viral, and her Facebook text has been shared by more than 14,000 people who have supported her and grateful that He has removed consciences with his words.
In addition, Megan explains the sad event that a good friend has had to go through and what has really led her to share this thought with the world:
"I make this reflection today because someone has called social affairs to go to a good friend's house. My friend is a mother, but she is of that kind of mother that I have always wanted to be. I have observed love and patience with the one that treats their children, helps them to do their homework or tell them stories "
"My friend is in bed very sick with a respiratory infection and the person who told the authorities had to do it thinking that she would be helping. Maybe my friend's children were running around the house without supervision, or maybe the neighbor who called social services he did because he saw them eat alone. In any case, I am sad that this person did not ask before if he could help in any other way."
A few words that invite you to reflect
I confess that Megan's reflection has hit me in the heart. How many times have we criticized someone without knowing the story behind? How many times have we judged the way parents act instead of giving our help?
On more than one occasion we have echoed similar stories. On the one hand, mothers and fathers overcome by fierce criticisms of their upbringing or their decisions. On the other hand, empathic people willing to reach out, help and teach everyone a lesson in humanity and generosity with their actions.
I am left with this thought of Megan, direct, clear and devastating, and I invite you to reflect on it:
"It's time to stop judging each other and start helping each other. Only then would we avoid isolation, depression, addictions, violence and suicide."IStock photos
Via Pop Sugar
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