Life is always a cluster of decisions, since we were little, our children also have many decisions to make, but often, many parents feel the need to control everyone around their child thinking that they will be safer.
People are the sum of our experiences and decisions, or at least we believe so and for this reason, we think that start letting your child make some decisions It is very beneficial for him. This should begin when the child demonstrates that he understands the concept of responsibility.
The decisions are responsibilities that they assume little by little, but of course, we must help them and direct them towards the right ones, give them all the information about the options from which they can choose and the consequences of each one of them. To think that our children are not prepared to decide or choose is something wrong and more if we never give them the opportunity to do so. Surely if you do the test you will be surprised and you will discover what the little one is capable of. Having a child decide for himself encourages his more responsible side and helps him to be much more organized. He thinks that a child always tries much harder to make an appropriate decision if he sees his parents trust him.
Trusting a little in the criteria of a child, makes them feel more loved, makes the image of themselves much more positive, it does not happen when we are continually telling him what to do, what to wear clothes, etc. . We are talking about everyday decisions in which our children are not at risk and that in the case of being wrong, absolutely nothing happens.
We already know that who has the option to screw up, also has the option to remove it, by this we mean that we often make mistakes and that when we realize, we try to rectify them. Well, the same goes for children, giving them the possibility to make decisions, helping them to be more adults and to solve the problems of daily life with much more security.
We have always said that in order to make a decision, it is preferable to do it as a family, let the child participate in a domestic agreement, comment on our choices or decisions aloud, teach him and give him security. Encourage their decisions in a simple way, for example, if the child asks what jacket to wear, answer another question, "If we are in winter and it is cold, which do you think will be the best?"
And above all, try to turn around the mistakes, mistakes should always be lessons learned and never say “see, I told you!” It is one more way for our children to continue trying to make the right decision, have Keep in mind that when certain risks are assumed, sometimes it fails and this is part of the learning.
We must reward him with phrases as pleasant to them as, "have you known how to choose," or "that's the right decision," "you chose the right gift for your little friend," etc. We know that children are not capable of making many decisions and that they not only make mistakes, but that they also feel very bad and as a result they are blocked, it is when we intervene and return them to the right decisions. We are the ones who should always be there, willing to help them in everything they need.
