Continuing with the comments initiated in the previous post, in the next section of the video the psychologist explains to the mother the convenience of ignoring her daughter's cries "... she has seen that although she cries it is useless, so it is better that she does not cry ... then she will try to attract your attention, but as you do not pay any attention to her after 2 minutes she will go again."
This is what I mean by the title of the post. To disconnect the mother from her daughter. To ignore the concerns of the child, to downplay what for her it can be. To deny the girl's feelings and get ahead of what she really feels, giving her a name before she (the girl) discovers what she feels.
To give you a simple example: you go to the doctor's visit and start explaining your case. You have prepared a detailed mental speech to express what you notice and feel, you have some symptoms and worries about it that you want to comment with him: "Look doctor, it hurts here, two days ago ..." and the doctor cuts you saying: "Yes, look, you have this. Take this another twice a day. Good morning." He has not let you express yourself, he has not heard you. You probably feel undervalued, you will even say that it has been disrespectful, not empathetic and you will doubt its capabilities and its diagnosis ... This is what I mean.
Thus, in the following scene we see that the girl falls and that the psychologist prevents the mother from coming to his aid. We do not know if physical damage is done, we do not know if it has been scared, we do not know what goes through your head, but the mother is forced to "know" that nothing has happened to her, thus denying what the girl may feel and starting a therapy that will cause a loss of empathy for her daughter and finally the emotional disconnection between them.
The relationship that the two had, completely healthy, in which they tried to understand each other is lost and the mother will tend to believe that many of the cries are unfounded and that they aim to annoy or "marranear".
In the final section of the video comes the time of the dream habit. A real abandonment of which I already spoke in the protest post to the program. The mother, the psychologist and the lady of the stopwatch know that the girl is not lurking for any physical danger. In fact they say: “That you are not going to war, that you are going to sleep”.
Attributing crying only to physical pain is denying the psychic part of people. It is to deny the pain of the mind and it is to deny the emotions at a time in history when psychological and mental disorders are increasing Giant steps
The day I left home my mother cried. If someone had told me that with a “hey, nothing happens to you! I'm not going to war! ”It was solved…
The mother, in addition, is not sure of performing such psychological abuse. A shame that he gave in and let himself be persuaded. We see her cry and verbalize that she doesn't like to see her like that. Honestly, I do not wish this on any child, nor any abuse similar to any adult (and unless it is broadcast on television as an educational thing).
I do not need to comment much more about it. I feel small for you and your mother. You have been disconnected.
