Yesterday I experienced an unexpected situation, unheard of and that left me quite perplexed until I understood. I imagine that those who have babies, you will have found in the case that unknown people approach to see the newborn, to tell you some compliment, ask how much time you have or what your name is and sometimes they even congratulate you.
I feel a little uncomfortable with it, precisely because they are unknown people. But what happened to me yesterday I think already exceeds the limits of education. I was going down the street with my baby of a month and a half and with my daughter of almost two years, and the mail delivery, which I had not seen before in my life, crossed my path and leaned into the cart to see the baby.
His words were something like: "Oh how little, how much time do you have?" I answer thinking that why I have to stop ... Then, look at my eldest daughter and release so wide "Mother! I share your sentiment… ". He must have seen my perplexed face because at the moment and in the face of my silence he continued: I had two like this in a row and blah blah blah, blah blah blah ... telling me supposed hardships.
Then I understood: she had found herself quite overwhelmed with the care of her two young children, and she considered that little age difference a disgrace. But it seemed like a very bad taste comment, and I don't even want to think about it if I had crossed it a month ago, with the hormonal revolution and the sensitivity to the surface, when everything seems uphill, I probably would have burst into tears on his face.
Fortunately now I can avoid the boldness, which would not seem so much to me if, as you probably have also lived, a friend with children tells you their experiences: “you will see, everything changes you, there is no time for anything, I have not been to the cinema for years … ” And it is that we who are parents believe in the right to "warn" the novices of how we have lived in our case (although many times it is not repeated in the others), but there are ways and ways of saying it, and it is also A matter of trust.
But of those funny and resigned “warnings” (which should also be suppressed completely during the puerperium) to give condolences, when you think that having a child is the most beautiful thing that can happen to you, although nobody said it was easyWell, there is quite a difference ... Even if it had been a friend who had accompanied me in the feeling, I would have seemed less strange and would have responded in a rather humorous tone, something that perplexity and offense prevent me in the case of a person I don't know
The wallet would probably think that I am unfriendly because in my circumstances and my silence there was no other option but to follow our path, each one by his side. And it sure does not stop to tell me anything if we cross again. Neither good nor bad taste like giving condolences for one, two or babies who are…
