The couple. That is what many mothers are looking for and what seems to be desirable for most of society, since when you have a child people almost want the second to be a girl and when you have a girl, they want it to be a child so that you have one of every.
However, if your first child is a girl it is best that your second child is also a girl since, according to a study, The happiest families are those with two daughters.
The study was conducted at the University of Ulster, in Great Britain, where 2116 families with children under 16 have been interviewed.
Results of the study
According to the researchers:
We have found that families with daughters are happier because girls tend to generate a more open debate about emotions, something very healthy in times of crisis. In contrast, families with children tend to be less expressive and generally do not cope with emotional problems.
Given this situation there are always exceptions, because children with great capacity to express their emotions and girls can be seen much more “closed” and introverted, although in general girls seem to be more likely to generate a climate of dialogue, something positive when conflicts appear.
According to two daughters, they don't bother too much, they make little noise at home, help, don't fight just, complement each other, play together, don't ignore and enjoy each other.
Children, on the other hand, tend to have closer relationships, with less dialogue and with less manifestation of emotions and therefore worse relationship between them and with parents.
Knowing this data one might think that the more girls at home the better, however this is not so, since it was observed in the study that too many could be counterproductive: the families with four daughters were the ones with the worst relationship.
And then, what would be desirable?
The study authors analyzed 121 family combinations with a minimum of two children and a maximum of four. The family combination that came in second place was for the aforementioned couple: A boy and a girl.
The researchers explained it as follows:
Children benefit from having sisters because they learn to communicate their emotions.
It was before chicken or the egg?
According to the authors of the study, boys communicate emotions worse than girls. This is probably true, but I have a doubt: is this because we are genetically like this, or is it because we are socially like that?
There are studies that show that adults take boys more strongly than girls, with which we seem to have more delicacy, all unconsciously, of course. There are also those that show that adults go faster when a girl falls to the ground than when a boy does, probably because we unconsciously surround girls with a halo of fragility that we do not attribute to boys, whom we treat as rude and less sensitive beings.
Knowing all this it is very possible that children are less able to express their emotions because adults do not encourage them to do so (You know, when a man talks about his feelings, he is said to be in contact with his feminine side, as if men could not talk about emotions) and, nevertheless, girls do it because we dialogue more with them and try to different way.
What do you think?
