Since I became a mother for the first time I was clear that I wanted to give at least one brother or sister to my daughter, whenever possible. In the end they were two more sisters, because if there is something I can affirm strongly from my experience, it is that a brother is the most valuable gift you can give a child. For me, my sister has been.
Having a brother helps to protect each other from feelings such as loneliness, fears, frustration ... It is a shoulder to cry on when things do not go well, and a friend with whom to laugh and enjoy those little great moments of life .
With a brother or sister, children learn many things, among others to live together and share not only objects, but also the love of parents. Feelings such as generosity, kindness and empathy are reinforced and you learn to distinguish that, above all differences, that endures always unique and unconditional love that only a brother can give.
Seeing your children play together, hugging or being complicit in adventures are one of those moments to die of love when you have young children. And as they grow, too.
In Babies and more, the love of sisters, a beautiful friendship that starts from childhoodA brother or sister is a life partner whose influence can sometimes be superior to the paternal influence. Except when the age difference is very large, the brothers they are in the same vital moment, which makes them even more united.
There are those who choose to have only one child, and it is perfectly valid as any choice. Sometimes, even if you like, it is not possible and the brother does not arrive. In these cases, friends tend to assume in some way that fraternal role for the child.
Seeing my daughters together makes me very happy to know that they have each other.Childhood, a key stage to create bonds
The conflicts will be there every day as a constant challenge. In us, parents are knowing how to deal with them in a positive way and nurturing a good relationship between siblings so that they get along well as children, stage in which deep bonds of union are created.
The arduous task begins when the only child ceases to be. Start by preparing the older brother before the arrival of a baby home, involve him in his care and teach him to protect him without feeling he has been left out.
Those of us with two or more children know that they will play a lot of time together sharing laughter, but that there will inevitably be jealousy, fighting and conflict. It is part of the upbringing and also has a positive component, since it helps children to better manage their emotions, something that will forge their personality.
Sharing life with a brother is wonderful and that is why I have always been clear that I would have more than one child.
In Babies and more How to help our children have a good sibling relationshipNor should we worry about giving them an obsessive equity in each moment, because each child has different emotional needs at each stage of development. The key is to respect the individualities of each according to their age and circumstances.
It is also true that parents feel a certain sense of guilt (alas, always guilt) because we believe that we will "betray" the elder's love with the arrival of a little brother. But love never divides, multiplies And I think that A brother is the most valuable gift you can give a child.
