Why it is important to live motherhood with women who are at the same stage as you

Motherhood is one of the most complex experiences we can live as women. In addition to being a great job, it is accompanied by a roller coaster of emotions and sensations, as well as unpredictable situations that take us by surprise. Thus, it is important to have a tribe to accompany us.

And although the advice and experiences of other women with more years as mothers are good and useful, the living with other mothers who are at the same stage as you helps more to not feel alone and better bring the ups and downs of being motherhood.

A few days ago I told you that thanks to the recommendation of many mothers, I had seen "The Letdown", a series that, from my personal and mother's point of view, is the one that shows the most real face of motherhood. Seeing her made me think and reflect on many things about the changes that come when you are mothers and the situations you face during this exciting new adventure.

One of the things that caught my attention the most, and a topic I've talked about on previous occasions, is the importance of being and feeling accompanied during the transition to motherhoodWell, as we know, this can be very lonely at times, and being so many new experiences, having someone who supports us emotionally is certainly essential.

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And for more books, blogs or magazines that we can read with advice about parenting and childcare, the truth is that the best advice and the best support comes from other women who understand what we are going through. Connecting with mothers who really understand how we feel, helps make the hardest moments of motherhood more bearable.

With this I do not say that books and parenting sites do not work, nor that the advice of mothers with more experience is not good. They all serve, and in many cases they can help us better understand how to do things and give us guidance on what we should or should not do.

However, when it comes to emotional support, there is nothing more comforting than having at our side someone who is living the same as us and really understands what we are living. Y if someone needs a lot of emotional support, he is a recent mother.

Having a support network of mothers who are living this new experience alongside us, as we have seen in series such as "The Letdown" and "Workin 'Moms", where the protagonists are part of a group of recent mothers with children of the same age, It helps us feel less lost and also teaches us to know other points of view.

I personally believe that having friends moms with children of the same age as yours is something that helps you stay sane. Sometimes there are stages that can be very confusing or overwhelming, and having someone who understands you at that moment helps you not feel like you're going crazy or feeling like you're failing as a mother.

Be able to send a message when they are both awake in those early mornings that seem eternal, ask for advice when their children go through a difficult stage to be able to let off steam freely with someone who understands you a hundred by the way, are some of the things that can have you have friends mothers.

How do I find my tribe?

Of course, having a support network for mothers is something that is easy to say, but it is not always. Finding other moms who have children of the same age can get complicated, but fortunately There are several ways to search and find your own tribe of moms to accompany you.

For example, enrolling your child in a class or visiting a park or plaza frequently can help you meet other mothers with children of similar ages. If you are pregnant, this does not necessarily have to wait until your baby is born, as you can even start making friends with other mothers by attending childbirth preparation classes. Somewhere, there is another mom looking for you too.

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Another option, and the one that worked for me, is that I don't have other mothers physically close to other children with the same age as my daughter, but fortunately and with the use of social networks, I have been able to form a virtual tribe that accompanies me in the distance, and that is just a call or a text message.

So, because being a mom is not always easy and because it can be really comforting to hear a "it happens to me too" or "I feel the same", I consider it very important to live motherhood accompanied by women who are at the same stage as you.

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